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  • LeonD 2:46 pm on March 15, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    989 – Listening To Your Crush, Crushing On Someone Else 

    The friend zone sucks!

    It’s like a little black hole in your heart that keeps sucking the sexuality out of you. Once you’ve been friend-zoned, it’s very rare that you’ll come back from it. As a result, most people chose to hold onto their feelings and live in the hope that “maybe one day the moment willcome.”

    With all those bottled up feelings inside, the most awkward (& difficult) thing to hear from your crush, is to listen to them talking about somebody else. They tell you how amazing this other person is, or how good in bed he/she is and how funny or beautiful they are. (More …)

  • LeonD 5:17 pm on March 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    991 – Watching A Sex Scene On Your First Date 

    There’s a strange dynamic that occurs on date first date. Especially early when you’ve just met ad you’re not sure where, or how far things a going to go. While the guy is gently trying to nudge things closer to sex, the girl usually feels the social pressure to wait until the second or third date before she sleeps with the man (of course, some women don’t bother waiting).

    So watching a sex scene on your first date, before you’ve even made up your minds about how attracted to each other you are can get…awkward.

    From a man’s perspective, if you’ve managed to get a woman comfortable enough with you to maintain physical contact, the last thing you want to do when a steamy sex scene plays out, is to let her feel you twitch or shift at that precise moment.
    It might not be the worst thing in the world, but being reactive in that situation could easily be misinterpreted as a poorly timed, overly eager first move. It’s just not a good look.


  • LeonD 12:05 am on February 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    994 – When She Calls You Daddy & You Don’t Like It 

    Note: this doesn’t necessarily relate to just during sex, but in every aspect of the relationship.

    There are two schools opposing schools of thought on the issue of calling your man “Daddy”.

    One side (Pro-Daddy) is perfectly fine with it. They consider “Daddy” a term of endearment. To men that enjoy it, the term represents protector, strength and leadership and it encompasses all of the good qualities that women recognise in them.

    The other side (Anti-Daddy) is wholly creeped out  by the very notion of it.  The idea of associating someone they are sleeping with, with their parents elicits an “Eewww!” response . Most Anti-Daddies still refuse to accept that their parents had sex in order to conceive them. To them, Mom & Dad are mortal gods that miraculously created life out of thin air. (More …)

    • eM 3:09 am on February 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      This is a toughy. It is a little weird and I agree that it can invoke unwanted images. From a woman’s perspective, being asked “Who’s your daddy?” is uncomfortable. I usually try to ignore it and work the sex talk in another direction. But it’s a toughy because as you said it is 100% acceptable everywhere.

    • leondelafonte 11:19 am on February 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      What if the tables are turned though Em? Would you continue dating a guy that called you Mommy?

      Surely that’s worse. To me, that sounds like something a man with severe unresolved issues would say.

    • Dani 9:53 pm on February 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      I dated a man who was older than me (by several years). He wanted me to call him daddy- it was so disturbing to me. I don’t get it either. And for the men who want to be called daddy- makes me think that they have some issues…

    • leondelafonte 10:19 pm on February 21, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      I’d love to get an opposing opinion on here, maybe there’s something we’re not getting.

      I’ve noticed that it’s very common in urban culture. Most black female R&B singers use Daddy in their lyrics in. Even Beyonce sings “Give it to momma” in her song Green Light.

  • LeonD 10:34 pm on February 14, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    996 – All Alone On Valentine’s Day 

    Being alone on Valentine’s sucks!

    I know for a fact that every single single-person in the world today, dislikes Valentine’s.  Even some people who might be in healthy relationships will openly declare how much they hate Valentine’s day.

    For the few couples that are in happy (usually budding) relationships, Valentine’s day is the most romantic day of the year. It’s the one day of the year where men who are usually “too cool for school”, openly express their love to the women in their lives and women with lovers finally get to live their favourite Disney moment. (More …)

    • eM 5:17 am on February 15, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      I’m single on Valentine’s Day and have been on all but 2 of them in my life. Tonight, I’m enjoying a glass of wine and watching The Bachelor. Fake love, I know..lol.. One of the sweetest things a guy has done for me is bring me a ‘Get Well’ kit unexpectedly when I had a flu. That tops any forced bouquet, box of candy or meaningless card. If you’re single, celebrate the other loves in you life. Or be happy that you’re aren’t spending it with someone who isn’t worth your time. 🙂

  • LeonD 10:30 pm on February 10, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    997 – The first phone call 

    Every time a male protagonist makes a phone call for the first time to his love interest, he’s always charming and he always seems to be completely comfortable talking to a woman that is a relative stranger to him.

    This is not always the case in real life.

    In reality, the first phone conversation with a woman (or man – I am writing this from a guy’s perspective ladies, but I’m sure you can relate) can be one of the most awkward conversations two people can have.
    Sometimes you might not be used to the voice of the person you’re talking to, maybe it’s their accent, the terminology they use, the humour they employ. It could just be their speak pattern. But as often the case, sometimes you both realise that sober, you two just don’t have anything is common. (More …)

  • LeonD 11:02 pm on February 9, 2011 Permalink | Reply
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    998 – When They Say “I love You” Too Soon 

    iloveyouThere’s no definitive “I Love You” rule. Ask anybody in this day & age how long you should wait before it’s socially acceptable to tell someone you love them, and the most common answer will usually be something along the lines of “When you mean it”, or “When it feels right”.
    Both of which are absolutely awful answers that expect you to be so socially savvy as to know the absolutely right moment and time to say it, without coming off too clingy or needy.

    Most of us in this world are not natural seducers, we learn as we go along. So for you to tell me to say it “When it feels right” means I shouldn’t feel weird uttering those words to someone after our second date…right?
    (More …)

  • LeonD 12:36 am on February 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: boyfriend, , ex, girlfriend, love, , two people   

    999 – Bumping into the ex 

    I am one of those people that can safely say,  (for the most part) he doesn’t feel awkward bumping into ex-girlfriends…for the most part.

    Unfortunately, ex lovers are not all created equal.  Some exes are like dear old friends who’ll quickly remind you why you loved them, while others inevitably bring out the demon spawn you’ve been trying to bury deep inside your heart.

    The easiest exes to bump into (Type 1 – “the Grown Up”) are the mature ones who (like most grown ups should) openly conversed with you and allowed you full closure when the relationship started dying. By clearing the air, these exes naturally become good friends and in fact, one of my closest friends today is such. (More …)

    • eM 2:15 am on February 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      There are no other words to describe the ex-bump-in but awkward. You are absolutely right about this. I haven’t had a bump-in in years and I hope it stays that way. A few days ago I thought I saw an ex who would fall in the Grown Up category and still my heart began to race…not in the excited kinda way but in the Fudge! This is going to be Awkward kind of way. I was glad to realize it wasn’t him. Whew!

    • leondelafonte 11:02 am on February 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      I ran into the ex that started the break up fight that led to her keying my best friend’s car. Which ended up in court with me on my best friend’s side.

      It was truly awkward.

    • eM 9:18 pm on February 6, 2011 Permalink | Reply

      Wow. She takes the crazy-cake and crown!

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